Tounge In Check.

Disclaimer: Authoring this article does not by any means, mean that I support either Zalman Leib or Aron.(of course, here, I am not speaking for my father….)

You know things have gotten really nasty, when the JC decides to report on them. After all a newspaper which reports about the latest female rabbi in Brighton, as well as reviews Naomi Aldermans "Disobedience" in the same Issue, really doesn’t have much interest in Politics which involve Zalis and Aronis?

Until of course it gets nasty and dirty enough for Martin and Sophie (named at there Bris and Kisddish respectively as Mordechai and Soroh) sitting in there home in Cockfosters on Friday night, to exclaim, "well just look at these Ultra orthodox Pigs, all they ever care about is Money…"

Something distinctively remarkable about the Article is the fact that no one in Williamsburg would really talk to the JC's reporter. After all a Frummer Yid, will always be a Frummer Yid and they barely ever do wash there dirty laundry in public.
The article really does not contain much more information that what one could have read in the Obituaries that followed in the days after Reb Moshes ZT"AL death in the New York post and such…

There is no smoke with out fire and when it comes to Chassidish Politic, there are no exceptions. After all if not for Chassidish politics, what would all of the men discus in the Mikvah on Friday afternoon? Victoria Beckhams, latest haircut or Christiania Agulirias latest Single. I think not. Joewish made a point about how he was shocked to here a chassidsh man inquiring about the score last week. If he would have asked "Nu… vosu haltz by Zalman leib…" or "view feil Chassidim hot ge vein by Aron tish shavous? Zalman Keib hot ge hat mere? Nein? " would he have still been shocked then? But honestly which one is worse?

If we wouldn’t have these politics, which I think I can safely say are the doings of the Chassidm in oppose to there Rebbes, what would most of our men folk do on a Thursday night or Friday afternoon? Maybe be watching one the latest games? Huh?

Would the JC still be reporting about that? Imagine the latest headlines… "Ultra Orthodox in Stamford Hill discus football over there Shabbat afternoon Cholent" I think not.
Of course in the eyes of the Vad discussing football is wy worse than discussing the fact that R' halberstam Bumped into his Nephews Kallah at Mitzvah Tanz last week.

But in the eyes of heaven, some how I think He above would prefer us discussing Beckhams latest haircut over Zalman Leibs latest Tish. Neither are L'shem Shomayim but do the one that won't get u the sin.

Groom Me No Groom!

I am neither too ugly nor too beautiful. Neither too poor nor too rich. Neither too clever nor too stupid. Neither too Yichusidck nor too Non Yichusdick. I am average. I never expected to be the first girl of my class to be engaged, but neither did i expect to be the last. I expected to do what I do best - be average…

I now find myself further down from average…. I find myself at the bottom of the heap. One of the last, schlepping along from wedding to wedding, from hall to hall….
The subtitle of my Blog (teenage) no longer applies to me. In truth it probably only just about applied to me when I started this Blog. I now find myself with another birthday approaching and I sit back and think……………………………………..

I AM HAPPY! I am happy with where I'm up to in my life, with what I am doing . I AM IN NO RUSH!

Shocked? I have most certainly shocked myself.

The point here is that I wish people would stop thinking that marriage is a bed of roses, a solution, to get out the house. Or even free nookie…. None of these are reasons to get married. I would never say my life is 100% ideal, and I believe that I have plenty of things that I need to work on. But a person CAN NOT come into a marriage with problems, hoping that their spouse will solve them.

At the moment, I have no reason to get married.

The cynicism in me has always been prominent, and now is no different. I see so much unhappiness around me. She had a baby too soon; she had to wait so long. His wife wants him to stay in Kollel, his wife wants him to leave Kollel so she can go shopping all day. Or they just simply do not match.
There is no way that I can guarantee that my marriage will be perfect, in fact no marriage is. But I do believe that I should go into it being the best person that I can be. And a person that is desperate to say 'I do' to the next shmerel the shadchan suggests because of peer pressure, the big wedding, or even to escape her father, is in my personal opinion, an idiot and most definitely not the best person they can be or become.

You see in this case, I am not average. In fact if I may be so blunt, I think of myself at the top of the class. I love myself for thinking this way. I love myself for not submitting to the pressures of my peers….

But more than me, I LOVE one person, for making me realize it….

In The Spirit Of The Season...

It's coming home…. It's coming home… It's coming……