Change..

So.. strolling down the street on Shavous Afternoon, and they pass... Well you see I am not your typical Stamford hilly so I don't on principle stare. EVEN if i see someone wearing hot pink shoes. No I NEVER stare. But this was double takish.

She had a massive smile on her face, he was spaced out. They were holding hands. Oh.. did i mention? She was NOT wearing a sheitle. I could see my sister giving her the once over, mouth slightly open, then peering to the top of her head. Nope no wig. Skirt that covered her knees- check. high neck line-check. black and white for him-check. holding hands-check.

Now every thing has a one off once in while, but they weren't the only unmarrieds, definitely not engaged (yes little nosy me checked) strolling down the almost separate sides of Stamford hill streets this Shavous.

Is Stamford Hill really changing? The question that I have is how?
Is it a change of the teenagers literally not giving a damm and doing what they want, or perhaps a small perhaps are people taking notice and starting to actually open there mouth?

We need a new R'vad. I'm not quite sure why, and there is someone who wants to take his place. But no one has actually been appointed. Why? Because people are opening their mouths and dont want him? Is that for the better or for the worse? Will the Mikvah be renovated, if he comes to place? Or will he just need a bunch of extra Kavadim?

Do the good people of Stamford Hill not want him because they are scared of change? Or is it a deeper meaning? How about the scandal that is currently rocking Keddasia? Are we scared of doing the right thing in this case. Are we scared of the ever increasing price of meat? Are we scared of doing the right thing, a case of Aishas Ish, a clear Averiah in favor of getting cheaper meat?

One thing is for sure, there will be a bigger outcry over the few teenagers that dare to walk on the street with male acquaintances that that of a clear desecration of Halcha. But were used to that dear folks, aren't we? Or are one of you going to bravely stand up and make a fuss? No I didn't think so...

I leave you once again, disappointed and truly disturbed at my home town and society.

Break it up people, nothing to see here, No ring.. Break It up... Move along...

Ohhh i can just see it.. Me spinstering along the passage of life.

HAH. I am sure there are plenty that would love to see me get depressed and all pent up with emotions... because yes because I am over 20 and wait for it,.... the shock is going to come,..... you ready? you sitting down?... I'm NOT engaged. (besides for one sweet reader, who e mailed me Mazel Tov wishes, really sweeti, thank you, but no that isn't me, oh and yes SHE is hot.)

Oh how much emphasis we put on a girl status.
Ok take this for example, this site, wont allow you to join there executive ranks if your not married. Now after all this is the internet and anyone can lie and click the I'm married button proudly, so they send you a bunch of questions by email that apparently, if your not married wont know the answers too. So for your amusement, my dear readers I will put them on the site.

1. In what jewish month is the festival of Shavous?
(erm is that the one that we sit in a hut for?)
2. What are 2 common side effects that a woman gets when she has her period?
(shes a bitch)
3. what is the Brocho a jewish woman says for the Mikvah?
(she osna isha, goddamit! )

Firstly my darling Mods at Imamother*, ANYONE and I mean anyone with half a brain can get the answers to these questions, and secondly, really will an unmarried girl not know the answers or at least manage to find them on the big bad web?

One would think that with all the F-ing stigmatizing that is given to unmarried girls, the internet- which is a place that a Zali can choose to be an Aroni and vice versa -would be free of them. But no, once again second class citizens. LOVELY!

Which irks me more I guess is that my friend who is about as naive as my 3 year old nephew is allowed to join up. Oh, did i mention she is 18.

Why?

You know why, cause she had stood under a canopy and worn a white dress. Lovely. Really, I mean, she has a album- no touching pictures- to prove it too. Oh and she knows the answers to the questions apparently.

Wow, these things piss me off. Oh and just by the way, if your desperate to know what they are hiding, they have a section on, oh whats the word they used, ah yes INTIMACY. Ha, the whole thing is laughable really...

* I'm confused (won't be the first time, won't be the last.....) Is it:
I'm a mother?
or
Ima mother?
or
Something else?